Is it ok to date your co-worker?


NO it is not ok! It is very risky to date someone a co-worker. I have seen more failed relationships that begin in the workplace and end up a disaster. One of my good friends and former co-workers once told not to shit where I eat. That saying couldn’t be more true. Getting personal with your co-workers in any way can be lethal for your career. Gossip and rumors is the main problem that arises in the office when one share personal information with co-workers. Keeping things professional and private is the best thing to do especially if you are seeking promotion.

Most couples don’t last no matter where they meet so why take that risk at work? I am more traditional in regards to relationships. I would date someone I worked with if one of us leaves, that is respectable. I believe that the reason why people get involved with their co-worker is because it is easy. Let’s be honest who wants to do some work and put themselves out there? It is frightening right? Yes, of course but one has more chances of losing than winning in this situation. We all need our own territory. If I get involved with someone I don’t want him to be too close to me all the time. I need a break to miss him.

Some people tell me that it is hard to meet people outside of work. It can be hard but one must try. You never know, you could be grocery shopping and you can meet someone. If you are adventurous and have a social life eventually you will meet someone outside of the workplace. Barriers will always be there but if you really want something you must go get it. You won’t get something for nothing. If you are thinking about dating your co-worker how will you know that it is going to succeed? What will you do if it doesn’t work out?


Is it rude for people to ask why are you single?

Yes absolutely! People shouldn’t be intrusive, when it comes to personal choices such as having a marriage or not having kids or not. Those are personal choices that people shouldn’t get judged for if they chose one way or another. Yes, guys throw themselves at me and I have to fight them off me all the time but I chose to remain single. I hate it when people are shocked to find out that I am single and have been for the last 5 years. I chose to have a stress free, drama free and headache free life. I don’t miss being in a relationship because if it was that good I wouldn’t have left in the first place.

A lot of people chase unicorns, what a waste of time! There is no such thing as the right one. You make the right one who ever you chose to be with. I believe that most people are in a relationship just to be in it but they are not in it wholeheartedly. What a waste of time. I believe that if I found someone who wants to work on a relationship with me as much as I do, we so right for each other. I don’t think that is how most people think. They expect the other person to make them happy and that with no work their relationship will just be perfect in a magical way. This is what I call chasing unicorns. Who says that you must be in a relationship to be happy or complete in life anyway? Who says you have to buy a house with a white picket fence and have kids?

I think it is time to start taking ownership of our on lives despite what others may think. We need to first be comfortable with who we are and love ourselves first before we can love others. Love is important, you can love yourself, love your job, love your family or love God. The fact that a person is single or childless doesn’t mean they don’t care about people. A lot of single people are very selfless and love others as much as themselves. That is honorable. What does happiness mean to you?





Complaining And It’s Negative Effects

Have you ever dealt with someone who constantly complaints? Are you one of those people? I work in an environment that shoots my blood pressure to Mars! I can’t believe how much people complain and what is worst is that their complaints are not legitimate. Complaints arise from the most trivial things that can easily be resolved. I called in sick twice because my employees complained so much about trivial stuff that I end up getting a headache that wouldn’t go away. I slept a day to recover.

I want to bring to light the negative effects of complaining. Their is nothing good that comes out of complaining it is time to stop this virus right now before it causes us our jobs and our health.  The following two articles powerfully describe what complaining does to our brains and how we can over come it.

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How Complaining Rewires Your Brain for Negativity

How Complaining Rewires Your Brain for Negativity

By Dr. Travis Bradberry

Research shows that most people complain once a minute during a typical conversation. Complaining is tempting because it feels good, but like many other things that are enjoyable—such as smoking or eating a pound of bacon for breakfast—complaining isn’t good for you.

Your brain loves efficiency and doesn’t like to work any harder than it has to. When you repeat a behavior, such as complaining, your neurons branch out to each other to ease the flow of information. This makes it much easier to repeat that behavior in the future—so easy, in fact, that you might not even realize you’re doing it.

You can’t blame your brain. Who’d want to build a temporary bridge every time you need to cross a river? It makes a lot more sense to construct a permanent bridge. So, your neurons grow closer together, and the connections between them become more permanent. Scientists like to describe this process as, “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”

Repeated complaining rewires your brain to make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people perceive you.

And here’s the kicker: complaining damages other areas of your brain as well. Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus—an area of the brain that’s critical to problem solving and intelligent thought. Damage to the hippocampus is scary, especially when you consider that it’s one of the primary brain areas destroyed by Alzheimer’s.

Complaining Is Also Bad for Your Health

While it’s not an exaggeration to say that complaining leads to brain damage, it doesn’t stop there. When you complain, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol. Cortisol shifts you into fight-or-flight mode, directing oxygen, blood, and energy away from everything but the systems that are essential to immediate survival. One effect of cortisol, for example, is to raise your blood pressure and blood sugar so that you’ll be prepared to either escape or defend yourself.

All the extra cortisol released by frequent complaining impairs your immune system and makes you more susceptible to high cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. It even makes the brain more vulnerable to strokes.

It’s Not Just You…Since human beings are inherently social, our brains naturally and unconsciously mimic the moods of those around us, particularly people we spend a great deal of time with. This process is called neuronal mirroring, and it’s the basis for our ability to feel empathy. The flip side, however, is that it makes complaining a lot like smoking—you don’t have to do it yourself to suffer the ill effects. You need to be cautious about spending time with people who complain about everything. Complainers want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with complainers.

The Solution to Complaining

There are two things you can do when you feel the need to complain. One is to cultivate an attitude of gratitude. That is, when you feel like complaining, shift your attention to something that you’re grateful for. Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the right thing to do; it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%. Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood and energy and substantially less anxiety due to lower cortisol levels. Any time you experience negative or pessimistic thoughts, use this as a cue to shift gears and to think about something positive. In time, a positive attitude will become a way of life.

The second thing you can do—and only when you have something that is truly worth complaining about—is to engage in solution-oriented complaining. Think of it as complaining with a purpose. Solution-oriented complaining should do the following:

Have a clear purpose. Before complaining, know what outcome you’re looking for. If you can’t identify a purpose, there’s a good chance you just want to complain for its own sake, and that’s the kind of complaining you should nip in the bud.

Start with something positive. It may seem counterintuitive to start a complaint with a compliment, but starting with a positive helps keep the other person from getting defensive. For example, before launching into a complaint about poor customer service, you could say something like, “I’ve been a customer for a very long time and have always been thrilled with your service…”

Be specific. When you’re complaining it’s not a good time to dredge up every minor annoyance from the past 20 years. Just address the current situation and be as specific as possible. Instead of saying, “Your employee was rude to me,” describe specifically what the employee did that seemed rude.

End on a positive. If you end your complaint with, “I’m never shopping here again,” the person who’s listening has no motivation to act on your complaint. In that case, you’re just venting, or complaining with no purpose other than to complain. Instead, restate your purpose, as well as your hope that the desired result can be achieved, for example, “I’d like to work this out so that we can keep our business relationship intact.”

Bringing It All Together

Just like smoking, drinking too much, and lying on the couch watching TV all day, complaining is bad for you. Put my advice to use, and you’ll reap the physical, mental, and performance benefits that come with a positive frame of mind.


Travis Bradberry, Ph.D.

Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning coauthor of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and the cofounder of TalentSmart® the world’s leading provider of emotional intelligence tests and training serving more than 75% of Fortune 500 companies. His bestselling books have been translated into 25 languages and are available in more than 150 countries.

Dr. Bradberry is a LinkedIn Influencer and a regular contributor to Forbes, Inc., Entrepreneur, The World Economic Forum, and The Huffington Post. He has written for, or been covered by, Newsweek, BusinessWeek, Fortune, Fast Company, USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The Harvard Business Review.

Jealousy In A Relationship

I found this really cool article on I think many of us have faced a relationship in which we had to deal with a jealous partner or worse we happened to be that jealous partner. If you want to know why jealousy occurs and how to deal with it please read the following article. Hope it helps!

How To Deal With an Overly Jealous Partner?

Much of the advice on this page is drawn from work of Bowlby, Ainsworth, Shaver and Hazan’s work on attachment theory (see, romantic attachments).

Being involved with an overly jealous romantic partner can be extremely difficult.  An insecure partner can be intrusive, invasive, irritating and annoying.

And if you want to deal with an insecure lover effectively, it helps to understand the nature of the problem.

Chronic jealousy is often caused by being anxious about love and intimacy, that is, having an anxious-ambivalent style of attachment (see, attachment styles).  Such individuals are constantly worried that their romantic partners do not love them and that their partners will eventually abandon them.

Ironically, extremely jealous individuals often behave in ways which make their fears come true.

Ineffective Ways of Dealing with a Jealous Partner

Most people handle an overly jealous partner in a way which makes the problem worse.

When a partner is jealous they often behave in ways that are controlling, manipulative, invasive and overly needy (see, overcoming jealousy).  When partners behave this way, the natural response is to pull back, withdrawal, and reassert one’s autonomy and independence, which usual involves some secrecy and deception (see, overly inquisitive and protect privacy).

For instance, if a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, calls ten times a day checking to see what you might be up to, the natural response is to avoid such calls, returning them less often, and being secretive and evasive when answering such questions.

Again, it is normal to try to hide things from partners who are overly inquisitive or from partners who deal poorly when the truth is told (see, react poorly).

The problem, however, with using secrecy and withdrawal to deal with a jealous partner, is that such responses only create more anxiety on the part of the individual who is already suspicious and jealous.  As a result, jealous individuals act in ways which are even more disruptive (i.e., more phone calls, snooping, invasive questions, pouting, and so on).

jealousy and insecureVery quickly, the following pattern becomes the norm: jealous individuals become more jealous while their partners begin to hide and conceal more of their activities, thoughts and feelings.  Over time this pattern of behavior can become a source of conflict – pulling many couples even further apart.  And if this pattern is not broken, partners often turn to someone outside of their relationship for love and understanding.

How to Deal with a Jealous Lover

A better way to deal with an insecure and overly suspicious partner is to deal with their fears and anxieties directly.

Talk to a Partner about their Fears and Anxieties

It helps to let a jealous partner know that he or she can talk to you about his or her feelings; that you will listen to a partner’s fears and anxieties and try to understand where he or she is coming from.

Try not to dismiss or discount jealous partner’s feelings (i.e., “Not that again… You are crazy… Where is this coming from?”).  Discounting a spouse’s feelings only makes that person feel more misunderstood and it does not help solve the problem.

On the other hand, there are many benefits to be gained if you can get a jealous lover to talk about his or her feelings and make sure that he or she feels understood (see, talk about problems).

People who are able to talk about their feelings and problems, in a supportive environment, often move beyond such feelings and worries more effectively.

Be Available and Responsive

It is also important to be available and responsive to a jealous partner’s needs (see romantic attachments).  If you are there when you partner or lover needs you (i.e., you answer the phone), doing so helps to calm a partner down.

If you consistently demonstrate to an insecure partner that you can be counted on, over time a jealous partner will become more trusting and less suspicious.  This is not easy to do, because it takes a lot of energy and often you will have to resist the urge to withdraw from an overly demanding husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend.

Reassure a Jealous Partner

It also helps to consistently remind an overly jealous partner that you love him or her, that you will be there, and that you will work through problems together.

Finally, it helps to keep in mind that while it is possible to help an insecure lover become more secure, such changes do not happen over night.  It helps to think about dealing with such problems in terms of months and perhaps years.  And in many cases, counseling is often needed (see, counseling resources).

You can also take a look at people who are having a difficult time dealing with their partner’s jealousy (see, partner’s jealousy).

One reason why women push men away is…..


Why Women Push Men Away…

Tammy asks:
 Why do I do this? Why do women do this? I am in a wonderful, committed relationship. I love him more than I have words for. He loves me and I know it. I have no doubts at all that he loves me back. But, why? Why do I always find myself pushing him for more, for him to always prove it to me? Why can’t I be happy with the fact that I know it, he shows it, he says it. I believe it and understand it, so why??? Ugh, I sometimes hate myself and wonder, I can’t be that insecure, can I? I want nothing more than for us to be together and be happy. We were together for 2 years, broke up for a few months and back together for 6 months now. I am really, really happy this time around and so is he. We are different people this go-around. I wish I could stop making him feel like he has to prove it all the time.”

Hey Tammy…
You know, I actually asked my dad this question years and years ago when I was in high school. I was desperately in love with a tall-but-awkward (we were teenagers) brunette.

We’d walk down the hallway hand in hand. We’d make out on the stairwells during school dances. We felt those crazy teenaged hormones pushing us like a mack truck closer and closer to physicality we just weren’t ready for.

And then out of nowhere she’d turn on me like an angry dragon, yell and scream about what an awful boyfriend I was and make me do backflips of penance to get back in her good graces.

It kind of sucked.
And when I went to my (charming, roguish, womanizing, really-bad-husband) of a father he just looked at me and said “Bitches be crazy.” (Which I promptly made into a song. But I can’t sing it here.)

Anyway, I loved my dad (he passed away a looong time age) but he was a womanizer and a misogynist (and a really bad dancer).

So it’s not that you’re crazy.

At least not any more crazy than the rest of us.
It’s that you’re subconsciously scared.

You’re scared that all the signals he’s giving you that say “YES, I LOVE YOU” (in big, bold neon letters that could hang in Times Square) are a lie.

You’re scared that he’s hiding behind a mask, laughing at you, manipulating you, twirling you around his pinkie finger and sucking away the good years you’ve got.

You’re scared of being a fool.

And you know what? In some ways that’s pretty normal.

Evolutionary Psychologists (the guys and gals who study how the human brain evolved to the crazy, powerful and . . . well, let’s go back to crazy supercomputer we carry around in our skulls) say that women’s “testing” behavior comes from a deep desire and need to choose “the right” mate.

After all, from a purely physical standpoint women have a lot more eggs in the love/sex basket than men do.
Men can go off and “mate” with dozens of women and still have plenty of time and energy to “mate” with dozens more.
But for women sleeping with someone (and the needy little bundles of cute that can come with it) is kind of a big deal.

So Here’s What You Do . . .
1. Calm down and forgive yourself. Yes, you’re testing him. Yes, you’re kind of insecure. But that just makes you human and makes you just like the other 99,000 women who get this newsletter (OK, I’m sure not EVERY woman on this list is insecure. But I’m insecure too, so I’ll take up their spots.)

2. Remember this: Just because you feel something doesn’t make it true. Instincts and “intuition” are awesome but instincts and “intuition” can be really, really wrong. The part of your brain that’s making you “test” this guy is really the same kind of your brain that makes you really, really like processed sugar. When those feelings come up you can just look at them, laugh at them and even talk to your guy about them (he sounds like a good guy.) But you don’t have to ACT on them.

3. Set up a ritual for yourself. When you feel the “Testing urge” come up: 
Take a deep breathe.
 Point and laugh at the urge (Oh, look, I’m feeling an urge to push my guy away.) 
Do the absolute opposite. Instead of dragging him through the coals either give him a compliment or just say “I really love how much you love me.” or something cheesy like that.)


About Michael Fiore

Since early 2010, Michael’s been teaching men and women around the world how to use simple digital tools to dramatically improve their relationships.

He lives in Seattle, Washington with his (frankly incredible) fiance.

Is arresting women moving towards gender equality or another form of oppression?

It is a known fact that men are physically stronger, aggressive and more violent than women. Yet, it has become a trend to see women getting arrested for somewhat violent attacks such as a kick, bite, slap or a punch. While no one has the right to be violent towards anyone, in a case where both male and female are both being violent both should be arressted. However, justice isn’t always served or is it?

Women three times more likely to be arrested for domestic violence.

While the vast majority of perpetrators of domestic violence are men, women are arrested in three of every 10 incidents and men in only one of 10, a study says
Staff and agencies, Friday 28 August 2009 06.10 EDT

Women were more likely to use a weapon, but often to protect themselves … a victim of domestic abuse. Photograph: Don McPhee
Men are responsible for most cases of domestic violence, but women are three times more likely to be arrested for incidents of abuse, research reveals today.

A report into domestic abuse and gender by Bristol University found that the majority of cases involved alcohol misuse, that women were more likely to use a weapon to protect themselves and that children were present in the majority of cases.

Previous research has shown that the vast majority of domestic violence perpetrators recorded by the police are men (92%) and their victims mainly female (91%), with many more repeat incidents recorded for male than female perpetrators. While the majority of incidents of domestic violence recorded by the police involve male-to-female abuse, little is known about the nature of incidents where men are recorded as victims and women as perpetrators, nor about the circumstances where both partners are recorded as perpetrators.

The new study, by professor Marianne Hester of the University of Bristol’s school for policy studies and carried out on behalf of the Northern Rock Foundation, looked at 96 examples from 692 “perpetrator profiles” tracked from 2001 to 2007.

The research looked at 32 cases where women were the aggressors, 32 where men were in that role, and 32 where it was both partners.

It found that 48% of the cases were related to couples still in a relationship, 27% involved violence after separation and the rest involved couples in the process of splitting up.

Some 83% of men had at least two incidents recorded; one man had 52. In contrast, 62% of women recorded as perpetrators had only one incident recorded, and the highest number of repeat incidents for any woman was eight.

Men were significantly more likely than women to use physical violence, threats and harassment, and to damage the women’s property; women were more likely to damage their own.

Men’s violence tended to create a “context of fear and control”, the researchers said, whereas women were more likely to use verbal abuse or some physical violence.

But women were more likely to use a weapon, although this was often to stop further violence from their partners.

All cases with seven or more incidents, most of which involved men, led to arrest.

But in general, women were three times more likely to be arrested: during the six-year period, men were arrested once in every 10 incidents and women arrested once in every three.

Issues of divorce and child contact were common in “dual perpetrator” cases, and also included the greatest number of instances where both partners were heavy drinkers.

Children were present in 55% of cases when the violence or other abuse took place. In cases involving post-separation violence, problems of child contact were cited in 30% of cases.

Hester said: “Both men and women can be violent, but there are significant differences in the way men and women use violence and abuse against their partners and also the impact of such behaviour.

“This needs to be taken into account if we want to ensure greater safety for individuals. The research has crucial lessons for the criminal justice system in this respect.”

Do age really matter in a relationship?

My sister asked me this question and I really didn’t know how to answer because I have a personal preference. However, I believe that people can fall in love with anyone regardless of age, race, religious preference or what have you. If you open yourself to others there is no telling where that person will lead you nevertheless, it may be an important life lesson. What can one say about such age gaps considering relationships such as Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher or a 25 year woman with a 45 year old man?

Does age difference matter in a relationship?

Mind the gap! Does age difference really matter in a relationship? As we mature, the biggest priority in our long-term relationships tends to be compatibility. We long for someone who understands us, appreciates us and cares for us, above all else. Sometimes in life, people find this compatibility with the most unlikely of partners. But what happens when the love of your life is 10 or 15 years older (or younger) than you?

What are some of the most common problems faced by couples with years, even decades between them?

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The norm
In recent history, relationship statistics indicate that most people end up with a partner that is close to them in age — around three to five years either side tends to be the norm. But times they are a-changin’, and now more and more people are saying to hell with society’s age stereotypes, and pairing off with people who are 10, 15 or more years apart in age.

The second time around
A common problem for those with a major age gap in their relationship is mismatched life experiences. These can include major milestones like career, travel, marriage and children — all of which are profoundly affected if one person in the relationship has already “been there, done that”.

If you’re a 25-year-old hoping for a family of your own one-day, and are dating a divorced 45-year-old with teenage kids from a previous relationship, you need to get things straight with your partner about their interest in having a second family. Age gaps can become more prominent when it comes to big life experiences and rites of passage. It pays to be clear about your relationship hopes and dreams from the start.

Who’s your daddy?
Not exactly a problem, but certainly something of an embarrassment, is the likelihood of social situations in which you and your partner are mistaken for parent and child — or worse. Work functions, booking into a hotel for a weekend away, and shopping for clothes together are all potential minefields for couples with big age gaps.

Do you nod and smile through gritted teeth as the sales assistant talks to your “Dad” or do you set the record straight then and there? And if you are constantly attracted to vastly older partners, are there some unresolved parental issues that could need addressing?

In sickness and in health
Your age gap may not be that noticeable in your lifestyle right now, but the bigger the age gap, the more you’ll need to consider what your life together will be like in the long term. Health and the natural aging process are both factors that will impact on the quality of your lifestyle with a partner who is vastly older than you.

A gap of 20 years means that one of you will be a sprightly 45-year-old, while the other will be approaching retirement. And yes, you’re only as young as you feel, but how will your relationship cope with the ravages of time? Are you comfortable with the idea of becoming someone’s live-in carer rather than live-in lover?

Making an age gap relationship work is like any other successful relationship — it depends on strong communication skills, dedication, honesty and a lot of effort. But as anyone who loves someone regardless of an age difference will tell you, love is not only blind, it can’t count very well either.

Is it possible to have a successful long distance relationship?

These types of relationships are very common for couples who are military or have partners that travel frequently. Many of my friends are deployed while serving in the military and their spouses are left behind. This is a very heartbreaking reality posing many concerns regarding their success and the future of that relationship. The two main questions that arise are, can these types of relationship last?  Secondly, if you want to work on a long distance relationship how do you go about it?

This article is great, check it out!

Making Your Long-distance Relationship Work

By Faith Knight

Inside this Article

  1. Making Your Long-distance Relationship Work
  2. Love Across the Miles
  3. Lots More Information

I must admit that I have had a few such relationships and not all of them turned out well. But through those experiences I have found that there are keys to keeping the romance alive, if both parties are willing and determined to make it work. Keep in mind that the length of time you had to get to know the person before you were separated will have a lot to do with how successful your long-distance romance will be.

  • Define Your Relationship One of the first things you should do with your long-distance sweetheart is to agree on what the relationship will be going forward: Are you going to be just friends? Intimately connected when it’s convenient? Or does this have the makings of a real and solid love affair? Determining limits is of the utmost importance, because as things get difficult, it will help ground the two of you if you know the boundaries of your relationship. It will also help avoid heartache later because you will both know where you stand.
  • Be Honest This is very important, and I don’t just mean disclosing the superficial things (like where he was when you called and he didn’t answer). You must be willing to discuss more sensitive issues, too, like your sex life. If this relationship is to really hold its ground, talking openly and honestly about your sexual needs is one of the biggest keys to success. Generally speaking, communicating openly with your partner about your sex life will allow you to find out if the other person is truly committed to you physically as well as personally. It is not an easy subject to broach, but it can be very revealing in terms of how much the two of you are willing to disclose for the sake of your love. (The only exception I would make to this regards the military: When you or your love is overseas, or fighting in a war, this kind of honesty may be way too much to handle and would be best left to discuss at a more opportune time. Encouragement would be the order of the day until you or he returns home.)
  • Exercise Patience Boy, is this one tough! I personally am not a patient woman, and one of the pitfalls for me in long-distance relationships has been the waiting. I recommend that you find things to do here at home to occupy your time. If your career or your children do not keep you busy enough, get involved in some volunteer work or maybe go back to school. The key is to avoid weighing down your long-distance conversations with whining or unrealistic demands, solely because you are bored or missing the other person.
  • Give Encouragement This one is so important. I am currently in a wonderful long-distance relationship, and this aspect of it has made it so much more special. I make it a habit to always ask how things are going – with school, work or family – and then proceed to encourage him in those areas where he is especially talented. For instance, he spent some time playing basketball and talking to his son the other day and I was so proud of him because, as a single parent, he is determined to keep the lines of communication open with his teenager. I let him know that and he appreciates it. He also helps me. I am currently trying to prepare for an algebra exam – I am horrible at math – and he is very good at it, so it makes him feel good to be able to assist me. We just do the problems over the phone. Encouragement, assistance and praise work well over email, too. It’s also a good idea to “smile over the phone” as much as possible. A good mood from you on days when your partner may be feeling especially needy can make both of you feel better.

If you follow this advice, you will be on the road to making your long-distance relationship last. Even better, it may end someday with the two of you finally in the same place, having learned so much more about each other simply because you had to put in a bit more effort.

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