Is arresting women moving towards gender equality or another form of oppression?

It is a known fact that men are physically stronger, aggressive and more violent than women. Yet, it has become a trend to see women getting arrested for somewhat violent attacks such as a kick, bite, slap or a punch. While no one has the right to be violent towards anyone, in a case where both male and female are both being violent both should be arressted. However, justice isn’t always served or is it?

Women three times more likely to be arrested for domestic violence.

While the vast majority of perpetrators of domestic violence are men, women are arrested in three of every 10 incidents and men in only one of 10, a study says
Staff and agencies, Friday 28 August 2009 06.10 EDT

Women were more likely to use a weapon, but often to protect themselves … a victim of domestic abuse. Photograph: Don McPhee
Men are responsible for most cases of domestic violence, but women are three times more likely to be arrested for incidents of abuse, research reveals today.

A report into domestic abuse and gender by Bristol University found that the majority of cases involved alcohol misuse, that women were more likely to use a weapon to protect themselves and that children were present in the majority of cases.

Previous research has shown that the vast majority of domestic violence perpetrators recorded by the police are men (92%) and their victims mainly female (91%), with many more repeat incidents recorded for male than female perpetrators. While the majority of incidents of domestic violence recorded by the police involve male-to-female abuse, little is known about the nature of incidents where men are recorded as victims and women as perpetrators, nor about the circumstances where both partners are recorded as perpetrators.

The new study, by professor Marianne Hester of the University of Bristol’s school for policy studies and carried out on behalf of the Northern Rock Foundation, looked at 96 examples from 692 “perpetrator profiles” tracked from 2001 to 2007.

The research looked at 32 cases where women were the aggressors, 32 where men were in that role, and 32 where it was both partners.

It found that 48% of the cases were related to couples still in a relationship, 27% involved violence after separation and the rest involved couples in the process of splitting up.

Some 83% of men had at least two incidents recorded; one man had 52. In contrast, 62% of women recorded as perpetrators had only one incident recorded, and the highest number of repeat incidents for any woman was eight.

Men were significantly more likely than women to use physical violence, threats and harassment, and to damage the women’s property; women were more likely to damage their own.

Men’s violence tended to create a “context of fear and control”, the researchers said, whereas women were more likely to use verbal abuse or some physical violence.

But women were more likely to use a weapon, although this was often to stop further violence from their partners.

All cases with seven or more incidents, most of which involved men, led to arrest.

But in general, women were three times more likely to be arrested: during the six-year period, men were arrested once in every 10 incidents and women arrested once in every three.

Issues of divorce and child contact were common in “dual perpetrator” cases, and also included the greatest number of instances where both partners were heavy drinkers.

Children were present in 55% of cases when the violence or other abuse took place. In cases involving post-separation violence, problems of child contact were cited in 30% of cases.

Hester said: “Both men and women can be violent, but there are significant differences in the way men and women use violence and abuse against their partners and also the impact of such behaviour.

“This needs to be taken into account if we want to ensure greater safety for individuals. The research has crucial lessons for the criminal justice system in this respect.”


Do age really matter in a relationship?

My sister asked me this question and I really didn’t know how to answer because I have a personal preference. However, I believe that people can fall in love with anyone regardless of age, race, religious preference or what have you. If you open yourself to others there is no telling where that person will lead you nevertheless, it may be an important life lesson. What can one say about such age gaps considering relationships such as Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher or a 25 year woman with a 45 year old man?

Does age difference matter in a relationship?

Mind the gap! Does age difference really matter in a relationship? As we mature, the biggest priority in our long-term relationships tends to be compatibility. We long for someone who understands us, appreciates us and cares for us, above all else. Sometimes in life, people find this compatibility with the most unlikely of partners. But what happens when the love of your life is 10 or 15 years older (or younger) than you?

What are some of the most common problems faced by couples with years, even decades between them?

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The norm
In recent history, relationship statistics indicate that most people end up with a partner that is close to them in age — around three to five years either side tends to be the norm. But times they are a-changin’, and now more and more people are saying to hell with society’s age stereotypes, and pairing off with people who are 10, 15 or more years apart in age.

The second time around
A common problem for those with a major age gap in their relationship is mismatched life experiences. These can include major milestones like career, travel, marriage and children — all of which are profoundly affected if one person in the relationship has already “been there, done that”.

If you’re a 25-year-old hoping for a family of your own one-day, and are dating a divorced 45-year-old with teenage kids from a previous relationship, you need to get things straight with your partner about their interest in having a second family. Age gaps can become more prominent when it comes to big life experiences and rites of passage. It pays to be clear about your relationship hopes and dreams from the start.

Who’s your daddy?
Not exactly a problem, but certainly something of an embarrassment, is the likelihood of social situations in which you and your partner are mistaken for parent and child — or worse. Work functions, booking into a hotel for a weekend away, and shopping for clothes together are all potential minefields for couples with big age gaps.

Do you nod and smile through gritted teeth as the sales assistant talks to your “Dad” or do you set the record straight then and there? And if you are constantly attracted to vastly older partners, are there some unresolved parental issues that could need addressing?

In sickness and in health
Your age gap may not be that noticeable in your lifestyle right now, but the bigger the age gap, the more you’ll need to consider what your life together will be like in the long term. Health and the natural aging process are both factors that will impact on the quality of your lifestyle with a partner who is vastly older than you.

A gap of 20 years means that one of you will be a sprightly 45-year-old, while the other will be approaching retirement. And yes, you’re only as young as you feel, but how will your relationship cope with the ravages of time? Are you comfortable with the idea of becoming someone’s live-in carer rather than live-in lover?

Making an age gap relationship work is like any other successful relationship — it depends on strong communication skills, dedication, honesty and a lot of effort. But as anyone who loves someone regardless of an age difference will tell you, love is not only blind, it can’t count very well either.

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